Korean Greetings – How to Bow

Written by on April 20, 2011 in Lifestyle

A foreign friend of mine who left Korea after living here several years told me that the most difficult Korean habit to break was bowing. Of course. In Korea, bowing equals greetings, which means saying hello and good bye, and how can you live a day without doing so?
Although bowing is second nature for Koreans and the “protocol” for bowing also comes naturally, I found that some foreigners were confused about how and when to bow (as not everyone bows in greeting), so here’s a quick introduction.

General Guidelines
Bows are generally reserved as greetings of respect to one’s seniors or when in the company of one’s peers, for formal occasions. You will rarely see close friends bowing to one another, for example, unless they are of a certain age or in a public arena. Waving hello to friends and colleagues with whom you have a familiar rapport is absolutely fine.

Everyday bows as greetings are rarely silent. Greetings are vocalized when bowing and are usually finished by the time the bow is completed. Annyeonghaseyo (안녕하세요) or annyeonghashimnika (안녕하십니까) is “hello”, gamsahamnida (감사합니다) is “thank you”.

Posture. Remember when you were a kid your mother would always say to “stand/sit up straight’? Posture is important, even while bowing. Bowing occurs from the waist, and not the neck. One bows by bending forward their upper body from the waist, standing straight with knees closed.

It is polite to return bows if you are receiving one, unless you’re an obvious senior. Although you’re not required to bow when a child bows to you, it is a nice gesture to do so.

Exchange of name cards and business cards are common in Korea, and you’ll find yourself in situations when you’ll be exchanging cards and bowing at the same time. Give your card with both hands and receive cards with both hands. Once you get used to bowing, double tasking shouldn’t be that difficult.

Handshakes. It’s becoming more and more common to exchange handshakes in business settings. This too, is done while bowing. Sometimes both hands are used to grasp the other person’s hands, sometimes a single handshake suffices. Play it by situation. Note that Korean women generally don’t offer handshakes first, even in business situations. There are some women who even find it offensive when a man offers a handshake, so beware. (Although, in the case of foreigners, you have leeway to be forgiven.)

Let’s take a look at the different bows:

Casual Bow
Although it may look like one, it’s not to be confused with a curt headnod. Remember: bowing occurs from the waist, not the neck.
A quick, swift bow, this is the greeting close or similar ranked colleagues or friends, and in the situations when you can’t perform the deeper bows: in cramped spaces such as elevators or public transportation. It is also acceptable when you run into the same senior several times during the day.

The standard bow

Respectful 30º ~ 45º Bow
The most common, this is the standard bow. It follows all the general guidelines listed above. It is used to greet almost anybody; seniors and even juniors. You really can’t go wrong.

People in uniform usually give the formal “belly-button” bow

“Belly-button” Bow

The “belly-button” or navel bow (배꼽인사) is the formal respectful bow that is mostly used by women in uniform, especially flight attendants and salespeople. The term comes from the fact that the hands are clasped together at the navel position when bowing. The degree of bowing depends on the occasion but the 45º is the most common.

Simultaneous handshake and 90 degree bowing

90º Bow

This bow is literally called the “90 degree bow” (90도 인사) in Korean because it is. It’s a form of utter respect, an intentional showing of service and obedience. Despite its good intent, it is highly parodied in comedy skits involving gangsters and overzealous company employees trying to please their seniors. It is also used in occasions for deep apologies.

The big bow done on New Year’s Day is called ‘sebae’ (세배)

Big Bow

Besides the regular everyday bows, there are the knees-to-the-ground “Big Bows” (큰절) or deep bows that are reserved for special occasions such as holidays, weddings, funerals, jesa (제사, ancestral rites), greeting elders after a long period of absence, and showing of extreme remorse or gratitude. (Celebrities thankfully bowing down to their fans during events or bowing while asking for forgiveness for wrongdoings are an example.)

The method of bowing is different for men and women. Video clips on how to do the big bow can be found around the web, here’s an example.

The Don’ts
There aren’t strict rules about bowing, but anything worth doing, it’s worth doing properly. Try to avoid the following:

Do not bow deeper to someone when you are already with another person who is that someone’s senior. For example, when you’re with the director of your department and a manager passes by, you do not give that manager a 90º bow in the director’s presence.

Do not bow “down” to someone, i.e. when you are on a staircase, be sure to get on the same or lower level to whom you are bowing before greeting them.

The “silent bow” is just plain rude, unless you’re in an environment where you have to be quiet like the library or theater. Say hello! Say goodbye! Say thank you!

Bowing is not modern dance. Don’t try to bow while moving, e.g. walking, running, jogging. Take your time to stand still and deliver a proper greeting.

Although it’s not truly a “don’t”, Koreans don’t bow with their hands together in a prayer pose unless they’re Buddhist or in a religious setting. Countries in South East Asia have this custom for everyday life, but it isn’t common here.

And also:

Watcha lookin’ at?

Although making eye contact upon first encounter is important, a mistake that foreigners (and even Korean kids) often make is maintaining that eye contact when bowing. What results from this stance: your neck sticks out while your upperbody goes down, making you look like a bird. Not very attractive.

Hanging arms are not appropriate

Ah, the swinging arms. Some people are just too comfortable when bowing. Unless you want to look like you’re trying to touch your toes, avoid being a gorilla; keep your arms naturally at your side.

So that’s it. Thank you for reading this post; I am giving you all a cyber belly-button bow. Gamsahamnida!

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Suzy Chung

Suzy Chung is a multilingual writer, editor, and translator with a marketing background. A coffee addict, bookworm, art junkie, foodie, oenophile, K-pop enthusiast, and occasional painter, she has been online since the mid ’90s when the internet wasn’t really the internet but a blue screen with text only discussions. She has lived in three continents but truly believes that Korea is the place to be and is willing to convince anyone who will listen!